A Reddit user’s daughter went on a vacation with a friend’s family, then the mom got the bill

A mother writing on Reddit shared an unusual experience. She said her daughter was invited to join a friend on a family vacation to Costa Rica – but when her daughter returned, the mother was presented with a bill for travel expenses from another family.

The distraught mother turned to social media to find out if her shock over the situation was justified.

On the social media platform, the mother wrote, “Okay, so my daughter (16) went to Costa Rica with a friend and her parents and grandparents. I thought they would only charge us for food and activities like ziplining. Nope. They. They ask for a place to stay. and rent a car too.”

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Surprised, the mother wondered on Reddit if being invited meant that the basic expenses of the trip would be covered by her friend’s parents.

Mom wrote, “Why on earth did I think he was introducing me?”

Young people at the airport

A mom on Reddit asked other social media users who should pay for a vacation if a teen is invited by another family to travel with them. (iStock)

He went on to share that he hosts other people’s children in the same way – and thought that was protocol.

“That’s what we did to another friend of my daughter’s two years ago,” the mother continued.

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The mother seemed surprised by the large bill of charges presented to her from another family.

“I would never have dreamed of paying so much when I was going [on a trip] However! “

Mother talking to daughter about expenses

A mother (not pictured) was left stunned after being asked to pay for her child’s expenses after another family holiday trip. (iStock)

Instead of causing an impulse, the mother said that she could pay the soft tab and be done with it.

“We have money, so this [isn’t going to] Break me,” he wrote.

He said he wanted to deal with the matter amicably with the parents of his daughter’s friend.

Two mothers are talking about the cost of the holiday

The Reddit user and the mother (not pictured) decided to pay the extra costs and handle the matter calmly and peacefully with the other mother. (iStock)

“I just want to have a conversation,” added the diplomatic mother.

The Reddit community chimed in on his quandary.

“The lesson we learned is to talk about things ahead of time.”

The announcer called “Skills-Award-55” said it was unusual to be presented with a bill, but he agreed with the mother’s decision to take action.

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“I think it’s weird to do that after the fact,” the man wrote.

“The lesson we learned is to talk about things ahead of time. A parent should just pay the bill and move on.”

Mother calculate the expenses from the vacation

A Reddit writer was asked to split the cost of her daughter’s travel accommodation and even part of the car rental bill for a traveling family. (iStock)

Other commenters shared the philosophy of thanking the family for adopting the child and paying whatever costs the family seeks.

And sometimes her daughter is “invited” on a family trip – people said she should decline the invitation.

“Pay,” user “stable_pay_74” wrote on the woman’s post.

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“Repeat your gratitude for taking him and never let him make a trip like that and ‘not family’ again,” this person wrote.

“Be gracious but know that they have shown you who they are – and you must believe them. Tacky!”

girls at the airport

Etiquette experts said the best thing to do in such a situation when traveling with another family is to set expectations ahead of time so that all parties are on the same page about the cost. (iStock)

Fox News Digital reached out to an etiquette expert on the matter.

To ensure that there is clarity about money issues – and because there will be costs associated with a family adopting another child – the best course of action is to talk about expectations, the expert said.

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“If there is going to be a cost, the host should make it clear up front,” said Diane Gottsman, an etiquette expert and owner of the Texas Protocol School in San Antonio.

He said an invitation is different from a holiday.

Mother help daughter pack

Instead of making assumptions based on past experiences, people need to have a clear understanding with other families about travel costs. (iStock)

“As for the mothers’ meeting, some quick discussions would be the best way,” said Gottsman.

“Thoughts are dangerous,” he also said. “This girl’s parent or guardian would be better off asking what the cost is [she] will be responsible for covering. “

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But he also said the host family should be more forthcoming about their intentions as well.

“They could ask for a flight in advance and help with lodging and food, but renting a car is a stretch,” said Gottsman.

A little girl is holding money from a parent

It’s always a good idea to give the child money before the trip to cover any extra expenses during the trip, said the etiquette expert. (iStock)

He said the best and most respectful way to handle an invitation from a friend’s family is to say, “Thank you for the invitation. What expenses will we need to cover?”

The truth behind why parents allow their children to invite a friend on a trip is no secret, said Gottsman.

“Usually, parents bring the child’s friend to make the trip more enjoyable for their child. And, paying for the expenses or all the expenses is not usual,” he said.

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And while the issue of asking a friend’s parents to cover other expenses is fine – timing matters.

“The budget is different, but the host doesn’t ask after the fact for the money unless it’s presented in advance,” Gottsman told Fox News Digital.

Reddit mom pays for daughter's vacation

Reddit users have joined the online debate after a mother was asked to cover her daughter’s expenses after the girl went on holiday with a friend. (iStock)

“The moral of the story is to think of nothing when costs are involved.”

Another important point: The parents of the invited child should give their children plenty of money for any extras.

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“When you send your child with another family, even if the other family is willing to pay most of the expenses, it is important to send enough money with your children so that they can offer to pay their way to certain activities, buy treats or desserts for them and other family members, or spend money on gifts ,” Gottsman said.

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“You want to make sure your child is comfortable and has some money in their wallet for an unexpected emergency.”

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